Charity and compassion are essentially the same concept, only in a broader and narrower sense, respectively. Charity refers to a caring attitude towards the weak and suffering, the willingness to understand and forgive. And compassion is the ability to understand a person, the ability to feel someone else’s pain is as bright as his own and without hesitation to help.
It is important to develop the concept of pity and compassion. As we have already shown, compassion is a deep ability to feel the same as a person, to share his feelings and strive to help him. Pity is a superficial feeling, and in most cases it indicates an egoistic desire not to be in place of such a person. In addition, pity is a more fleeting feeling that does not cause a desire to do something for a person, to help him, unlike compassion.
The manifestation of compassion is one of the special features of the Russian mentality. And despite the fact that many people equalize kindness and compassion,
in this case this phenomenon acquires a somewhat new meaning: in fact often they are often sympathized with those who brought themselves to an unhappy state (alcoholics, drug addicts, etc.). And to leave a person at such a moment is to act like a proverb “no shame or compassion.”
Such double examples of compassion we often see in families of alcoholics and drug addicts. Instead of protecting children and themselves from such a negative example, women continue to live with an addicted person, driven by compassion and thought: “How can he be without me?”. Thus, charity is disastrous, because dependence is supported, and women’s life, which could be normal, is under attack. On the one hand, such an act is regarded positively in our culture, because this is a manifestation of mercy and compassion. On the other hand, it turns against a person who thus sacrifices himself and his happiness. In addition, these efforts are rarely appreciated.
That is why the education of compassion in children is very twofold. After all, on the one hand, the child is attached to the Christian culture,
there will be no cruelty and indifference. But on the other hand, we teach the little person to problem behavior, to the idea that other people’s interests may be more important than their own, which ultimately can be a great thing to interfere with in life.
Interestingly, sympathy and compassion for people is developed only in women’s culture – in men it remains unclaimed, because a strong half of humanity learns to conceal thoughts and emotions since childhood.
It is important to develop the concepts of love and compassion. After all, in fact, compassion is not love for people, but its appearance. In fact, it is not necessary to love someone who is compassionate. Absolutely any spiritually developed person can not be indifferent to someone else’s misfortune. Sociologists note that those who belong to low social groups are prone to compassion and are more prone to anxiety and hostility to any kind of danger.
These features should not be shown in all cases, because this can damage your life. If a person has a great grief, and he can not recover, he really deserves compassion. If a person goes to contact, you can help him – at least morally.
However, if a person has caused problems and can help him negatively affect your life, you should take it more cautiously: compassion and mercy are high feelings, but they can both help and hurt.