The problem of interrelations of generations existed, probably, from the time of the appearance of mankind on Earth. Intergenerational relations, unfortunately, at all times is a complex and urgent problem. A countless number of minds have puzzled over the causes and solution of the problem of the relationship between fathers and children. Why, apparently, the closest people, blood relatives can not find a common language? Why are there so many different frictions and disagreements? Why does not the younger generation understand and do not want to understand the elders?
The clash of different vital positions of children and their fathers a priori takes place to be in the modern world. Views of life at different times in society vary, and what was the norm or even the rule of the years so thirty years ago, is losing its relevance in our days. Life standards, the political situation in the country, cultural, social and material values are changing, which also influences the
person’s life position and is the ground for the emergence of conflicts.
Causes of misunderstanding between people of different ages
Let’s try to find out the causes of conflicts and complex intergenerational relationships. There is no single reason, the problems of intergenerational relationships are based on a number of reasons. Often, dissatisfaction with each other and a silent protest accumulate over the years, so that one is not the best moment to splash out. Everything depends on the people themselves, who can not find a common language and features of building relationships in the family. As a rule, unacceptable behavior of family members, material problems, incompatibility of interests, household difficulties, social situation of the parties, the difference in moral values of generations, and others are considered a grain of stumbling block.
Sometimes, the older generation in the family does not want to see that children have grown up, they have their own values and beliefs, perhaps diametrically opposed to their vision of the world, and do not want to put up with this
state of affairs. Older people, perhaps from the best motives and desire to pass on their experience to the younger generation, often dictate the conditions and rules of life that inevitably lead to conflict. Young people do not want to live according to the rules of their elders, and they want to cost their lives in their own way. They believe that they have enough knowledge and age is not an obstacle to one’s own opinion on things. Such disagreements cause conflict between the parties, and the opportunity to clarify the very essence of the problem is lost.
The problem of the relationship between fathers and children only worsens during disputes and mutual accusations and there is no way out in such a situation. To minimize conflicts and avoid clashes, it is necessary to take into account the specific features of the psychology of each participant in disputes.
It is worth noting that the younger generation does not always go against adults, it all depends on the customs and traditions of the family, as well as upbringing. Often people who have been vaccinated with family values since childhood plan their lives without giving up the advice and experience of elders. There is also a tendency to choose a career under the influence of parents and build their family on the example of their ancestors. The socialization of man is also affected by such uncontrollable factors as the circle of contacts and the situation that exists in the society where the adolescent is.