Which of us did not offend? Who did not offend himself? There are simply no such people. What distinguishes us from each other is the ability or inability to forgive. “On the offended water carry” – this proverb shows a negative attitude towards a person who is not able to forget resentment. Yes, and the most offended person is hard to wear their grievances. Therefore, it is worth learning how to forgive people.
Relations between people are formed in different ways. We do different things: good and bad. We help each other in deeds, we fulfill our desires, we fulfill our requests. But it happens, we lie, we can not do what was promised, we act in defiance, we quarrel. Often we offend our beloved people, we talk heatedly as we do not think at all. We make a person
All people are different, with different characters and temperament. Everyone resents, forgives and knows how to apologize in his own way. Affected, sensitive people take offense quickly. Even trifles that are not worth the attention, they take jokes seriously. But just as quickly they are able to understand and forgive the offender, because they suffer a lot of negative emotions. People are cold, dry, mean for emotions to offend difficult. On the one hand, it’s good: they are protected from unnecessary emotions. On the other hand, such people themselves can greatly offend.
The ability to ask forgiveness and forgive is a sign of a strong personality. It’s overcoming your anger and admitting your own mistakes.
Forgiving resentment is necessary. When we are offended, our mood is spoiled, there is no smile on the face, tone is lowered. And in a depressed state, we ourselves can cause pain. “Sorry…”. Sometimes this word can calm down the most played conflicts. It is capable of penetrating into the very depths of our souls, if it was said with sincerity. “Forgive me…” Having said this word, we seem to be free from the shackles that were so painful. From this word in our
How to learn to forgive? You need to imagine yourself for a moment at the place of the offender. It’s hard, unpleasant and insulting for him not to accept his apology. In addition, do not forget that we have repeatedly insulted someone, felt anxiety, their guilt. Forgiving must be for ever and with a pure heart. If it is not so, then there was no forgiveness. If you remember the offense, then, then, did not forgive. It is not necessary, if you forgive, to put yourself into merit. You just have to forget.
In fiction there are many examples where the theme of forgiveness sounds. For example, in Tolstoy’s novel-epic “War and Peace.” Bolkonsky madly falls in love with Natasha Rostov, but something tells him that their happiness is impossible. Natasha also loves Bolkonski, although he seems to her to be dry, disappointed, lonely, while she herself is an energetic, young, cheerful girl. Natasha does not understand why the prince postponed their wedding for a whole year. By this delay, he provoked her betrayal. Pride does not allow Andrei to forgive Natasha, to understand her. In a conversation with Pierre, Bolkonski said: “I said that a fallen woman should be forgiven, but I did not say that I can forgive, I can not.” Before us appears a cruel egoist. Bolkonsky makes himself forget about Natasha.
Otherwise, the theme of forgiveness is reflected in the novel “The Hero of Our Time” by Lermontov. Faith plays an important role in revealing the nature of Pechorin. Vera – the only person who fully understood the essence of Pechorin, loving him with all the advantages and disadvantages. This perceptiveness and loyalty to the feeling could not be appreciated even by Pechorin himself: “She is the only woman in the world I could not deceive” – and she alone provokes genuine and sincere feelings, although fleeting. The feelings of Faith are so strong that she forgives all the sufferings brought to her by Pechorin, continuing to love him, knowing that they will never be together. In the image of the Faith, we see humility, sacrifice, she does not have a pronounced sense of dignity, she again confesses love to Pechorin after he has left her once already.
I think it’s necessary to forgive everyone and everyone, even betrayal of a friend. Resentment and revenge destroy us. They can be convincing today, and tomorrow they are destructive. Rather, they are always like that. They bring only a moment’s pleasure. We have no right to judge. Let everything judge life. Nothing to keep the heavy thoughts in your heart. There should settle only light, noble feelings. Forgiveness is generosity. Let’s be generous, and maybe the world will become kinder!