About education
You can get good education not only in your family or school, but also. from himself.
You just need to know what real breeding is.
I do not presume to give “recipes” of upbringing, since I do not consider myself to be exemplarily educated at all. But I would like to share some thoughts with readers.
I am convinced, for example, that real upbringing manifests itself primarily at home, in his family, in relations with his relatives.
If a man on the street lets forward an unknown woman (even on a bus!) And even opens the door to her, and at home does not help the weary wife to wash up the dishes, he is an ill-mannered person.
If he is polite to acquaintances, and is irritated with domestic people on every occasion, he is a bad man.
If he does not consider himself with the character, psychology, habits and desires of his loved ones, he is an ill-mannered person.
If already in the adult state, he takes the help of his parents as
If he loudly starts a radio and a television set or just talks loudly when someone at home prepares lessons or reads (even if it’s even his young children) – he’s an ill-mannered person and will never make his children bred.
If he likes to trump (joke) over his wife or children, not sparing their pride, especially with outsiders, then he already (excuse me!) Is simply stupid.
A well-educated person is someone who wants and knows how to reckon with others, this is one to whom his own politeness is not only habitual and easy, but also enjoyable. This is the one who is equally polite with the older and younger years and by position.
The educated person in all respects does not behave “loudly”, saves the time of others (“Precision is the politeness of kings”, says the saying), strictly fulfills the promises to others, does not bother, does not “bully his nose” and always the same – at home, at school, at the institute, at work, at the store
The reader has noticed, probably, that I appeal mainly to the man, to the head of the family. This is because a woman really needs to give way. not only in the doorway.
But an intelligent woman will easily understand what exactly it is necessary to do, so that, always and with appreciation taking from a man) the right given to her by nature, as little as possible make a man give her priority. And this is much more difficult! Therefore, nature has taken care that women in the mass (I’m not talking about exceptions) were endowed with a great sense of tact and greater natural politeness than men.
There are many books about “good manners”. These books explain how to behave in society, at home and at home, in the theater, at work, with the older and younger, how to speak, without insulting the hearing, and dress without offending the eyes of others. But people, unfortunately, draw little from these books. This happens, I think, because in books about good manners it is rarely explained why good manners are needed. It seems: to have good manners is false, boring, unnecessary. A person with good manners can really cover up evil deeds.
Yes, good manners can be very external, but in general good manners are created by the experience of many generations and mark the centuries-old desire of people to be better, to live more conveniently and beautifully.
What’s the matter? What is the basis of the manual for acquiring good manners? Is this a simple collection of rules, “recipes” of behavior, instructions that are hard to remember everything?
At the heart of all good manners is care – the concern that a person does not interfere with a person, so that all together feel themselves well.
We must be able not to interfere with each other. So do not make noise. From noise you will not shut up ears – hardly it in all cases and probably. For example, at the table while eating. Therefore, do not champ, do not ringingly put the fork on the plate, with a noise draw in a soup, loudly talk at dinner or talk with a mouth full so that neighbors do not have fears. And do not put your elbows on the table – again so as not to disturb your neighbor. To be neatly dressed is necessary because this affects respect for others – to guests, to the owners or just to passers-by: you should not be disgusted to look at. Do not tire the neighbors with continuous jokes, witticisms and anecdotes, especially those that have already been told by someone to your listeners. This puts the listeners in an awkward position. Try not only to entertain others yourself, but also let others tell something. Manners, clothing, gait, all behavior should be restrained and. beautiful. For any beauty does not tire. It is “social”. And in the so-called good manners there is always a profound meaning. Do not think that good manners are only manners, that is, something superficial. By your behavior you reveal your essence. It is necessary to cultivate in oneself not so much manners as what is expressed in manners, careful attitude to the world: to society, to nature, to animals and birds, to plants, to the beauty of the terrain, to the past of the places where one lives, e.
We must not remember hundreds of rules, and remember one thing – the need for respectful attitude to others. And if you have this and a little more resourcefulness, the manners will come to you or, better to say, the memory of the rules of good behavior, desire and ability to apply them.
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